Hi skoups212,
We couldn't do comparison during export, because the exported excel file will start to download immediately when click "Export to Excel" button, the process is not customizable.
As far as I know, here are some available operations for data import & export.
1. We can export existing contacts and change their information, then upload the modified list for bulk update.
2. We can download excel template, it will still contains existing contacts, but we can delete these rows then copy record rows from other excel list of contacts as new rows.
For your requirement, a workaround is that you could do comparison locally by code, if any of row matches, then create another excel file to save matching rows.
I built a javascript version for this purpose, it'll convert all rows in excel file to JSON object with sheet.js library, which is easy to customize, you could take it as reference to check whether it could meet your requirement.
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Regards,
Clofly